Your clothes aren’t just fabric; they’re woven into your identity. The way you’ve dressed up until now has signaled to yourself—and everyone around you—who you are. So when you start to shift your style, your nervous system may freak out.

Life isn’t waiting for you to show up—it’s eager for your participation. But if you’re constantly feeling distracted, self-conscious, or underprepared, it’s hard to say “yes” to those moments that matter.

I’ve heard it time and again from women who are convinced that they just need to lose a little weight, firm this, hide that, or change something before they can start loving how they look. The problem isn’t your body, though—it’s the relentless rules you’ve been taught to follow. And those rules? They’re not yours to keep.

I’m not a “before”. I’ve been a “before” before, always waiting for the next, better, prettier, skinnier, more organized self to arrive.

Spoiler: “after” is never enough once you get there. Suddenly, you’re a “before” again.

So, I resolve to be a “now”. I am doing it right now, even if it’s a little messy.

Care to join me?

My feet landed like thunderclaps on the stage, clomps and booms echoing off the walls and ceiling of the crowded auditorium. My breathing was audible, my lip trembled as I tried to remember the steps to my lyrical solo without my song to guide me.

She deserved better and she knew it. We started by elevating her athleisure game, by incorporating joggers, crop tops, and on-trend sneakers, she could move from WFH to the coffee shop with ease. We were feeling great.

Then something happened.

No two wardrobes are exactly alike, but more often than not, I notice 4 major gaps in my clients’ closets. These items always make the shopping list; maybe you need them on yours. (…with links!)